By asking others for help, although there's no explicit commitment to do so, there's sort of an implicit contract that you both welcome advice and are willing to listen, especially when those offering the advice may be considered experts in their field.
If you appear to be provoking some ruffled feathers or frustrated reaction, this may be due in part to the fact that some of your comments are being seen as a breach of this implied contract. I must admit having fallen prey to this same reaction, in your question about 'gladly' related discussion
. Or, maybe it's just that you appreciate a very strongly worded and exhaustively researched reply, as you seemed to in that post, but there's not always time for all that.
So let us know what the best way to help you is, and keep in mind the excellent reminders about duplicate-posting, use of all upper-case (DON'T <-- he shouted, for emphasis), handle with care those who would help you, and perhaps express your disagreement with native speakers who have just offered you their advice in the form of a follow up question ("are you sure that...") rather than as outright rejection ("I'm sure I'm right about..."). It's also helpful to lurk in various forums and just get a feel for how those with lots of experience both ask and respond to queries, much can be learned simply from reading.
I think you'll get a lot more favorable feedback this way, and won't feel like you have to open duplicate topics. Good luck on this topic, and see you in the forums!